Healthy Relationships

One way of thinking about healthy relationships is to think about connection. Connection can be defined as "a relationship in which both people are growing and contributing to each other's growth" (Walker & Rosen, 2004, p.13).

Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The following tips can help you create, build, and maintain a healthy relationship.

  • Respect Your Partner. Your partner's wishes and feelings have value. Let your partner know that you respect them by making an effort to keep their thoughts, feelings, and opinions in mind. Mutual respect is essential to building and maintaining healthy relationships.
  • Communicate & Listen. People communicate in different ways. Be aware of the ways that you communicate with others. How do you express your appreciation for other people? What makes you feel appreciated?
    • Sometimes, listening is just as important as communicating verbally. Make sure that you practice active listening when having a conversation with your partner.
  • Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it's important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Compromise is not 'sacrifice'. Compromise is finding middle ground that both parties can agree upon.
  • Be supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Support them in their successes and during difficult times. Mutual support can provide a stable foundation for a healthy relationship.
  • Respect Each Other's Privacy. Being in a relationship does not mean that you need to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space and independence as well as mutual support. 

At their best, healthy relationships foster:

  • The desire for positive growth-for yourself and for your partner
  • Stability and security
  • Mutual understanding and admiration
  • The empathy and communication skills necessary to get through difficult times

Violence Prevention 

  • Violence is a learned behavior. If it can be learned, it can be unlearned.
  • If you are a victim of violence, it is NOT your fault, you are NOT alone, and you CAN get help!

Violence Prevention consultation consists of a 30-minute confidential appointment on various violence prevention/awareness topics. Please call (408) 924-6122 to make an appointment. You can also email Zoë Whaley(zoë.whaley@sjsu.edu), if you have questions about Violence Prevention topics:

  • Sexual Assault
  • Confidential help through the process of healing for you or a friend
  • Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships
  • Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence
  • Consent